How to Ace a Date
Whether you want to be a 21st century Casanova or simply wish to start a beautiful, fulfilling relationship with a woman you feel drawn to, here are some tips for making your first date a successful one.
Get ready for your date
Shave if you want a clean-shaven look.Shave first with the grain, applying a generous amount of lotion. Then, with very, very light strokes shave against the grain to achieve a close shave. Apply a neutral-smelling, cool aftershave.
If you have a beard (recommended only allowed if you have rich facial hair, as you don't want to look like a 15-year-old boy), wash it and trim it with extra care.Shave several hours before your date, as you skin may temporarily feel irritated and itchy.
Take a relaxing, refreshing shower one or two hours before the date.Wash your hair. Be impeccably clean. This is absolutely vital, as no woman ever feels drawn to a grizzly bear. Pay particular attention to details: nails, ears, nose, etc... Use gentle shampoo and soap, with a light, fruity and fresh scent. Don't use strongly scented products - you will use a more virile cologne later.
Brush your teeth with particular care (it should take at least 2-3 minutes).
Apply an antiperspirant.
Put on cologne.Apply it behind the ears, on the wrists and on the chest. Use no more than 4-5 squirts. Opt for classics such as Eau Sauvage, Hugo Boss Bottled, Le Male, or choose warm, rich, woody and sensual scents. Opt for citrusy, fresh scents only if the weather is very hot. Avoid sporty fragrances.
Get dressed.Rely on classics, and make sure your clothes are fitting, well-ironed and clean (very clean). Here are some proposed outfits: autumn and spring: sleek brown brogues, slim beige chinos, white shirt tucked in, a colored scarf, trench coat; winter: sleek Chelsea black boots, black trousers, shirt and jumper (sober color), dark scarf, pea-coat, leather gloves; summer: loafers, slim dark blue chinos, un-tucked light shirt or T-shirt. You got the message. Avoid excessively formal attire, and instead go for smart and casual outfits. Always have a spark of color when wearing coats. A scarf is the best solution.
Decide where to go
Know where you two will go.Come up with ideas, and show her you are in control of everything. Don't say, "So, where do you want to go...?" If she doesn't know what to order, make suggestions.
Choose a place where you can talk - forget movies, opera, concerts, cabarets.The music should be soft and relaxing, and the surroundings reassuring, comfortable, and romantic. A place where you can dance is a also an option if you feel confident enough. A nice view is also a plus; it show you have sensitivity. Stay clear of dubious bars and noisy pubs with hard benches and drunk people swearing, or places with sexually explicit pictures hanging on the walls.
Behave like a gentleman
Smile, be fun (but never dirty) and be self-ironic.Use elevated language, engage willingly in academic debates if she starts one. If not, better not ask her what opinion is of Celine or Kundera's work, or about the French New Wave. Ask her plenty of questions and listen carefully. When asked, answer amply, not monosyllabic-ally.
Lean toward her, and keep eye contact.Get near her smoothly and gradually, and occasionally softly touch her hand or shoulder.
Be polite throughout.Come across as the perfect gentleman.
Be confident and assured, but never brag (unless it's part of a funny story to make her laugh).
If she seems receptive by the end of the date, draw yourself close to her, take a hand or put your arm around her shoulders or waist, look her in the eyes for a few seconds and kiss her.First kiss her lightly on her cheek, ear or eye, before proceeding to kiss her on the mouth. The kiss should last up to 40 seconds.
Propose to see her home, especially if it is dark outside.As you part, kiss her again, and say how special she is to you. This is a proper love declaration, so be honest but also romantic, full of ardor.
Be careful; you are not dating a toy or an object.If you see your date only as a possible sex partner, drop it. Always respect the woman in front of you, and empathize with her all the time. Would you like somebody to be nice, polite and adorable with you just to take you to bed (or get your money, or a position, or anything similar). This is not an article for macho hunters: there are too many of them already.
- Be polite to everyone, including waiters, passers-by, clerks, etc...
- Don't expect sex. Don't even try to mention sex. After a few dates, you might actually start to hope.
- Wear a watch. It lends an air of sophistication.
- If your date doesn't want to be kissed, she will pull back from your previous caresses. So don't skip them. Also, women are much more sensitive to caressing, because their skin is thinner.
- Pay! For the first time at least.
- Talk about past experiences - but get stuck on one topic. Don't say over and over how you got extremely drunk. Try to find common past experiences - for example, you were both to Paris once. What did you see, like, etc..?
- Let her talk about herself.
- Open up, but don't reveal everything. It just isn't masculine.
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